"even if people have chosen to be single contrary to church directives, condemnation is a poor means of encouraging change(eyeshigh:2007)"
My dear valiant and righteouss friend eyeshigh, this quote encompases a few layers of your own self, one is wrongly accusing a visceral but truthful and positive critique with the mere purpose of calling people to reflect, especially those who endulge a bit too much on their on selves that have found it a bit hard to share their time with others not to say their lives. Two: is a categorical and overtly utter acceptance and realisation and resignation that what you are doing is ovbiously and definatelly contrary to church directives therefore we can conclude is not a Crhistlike demeanour and we should forsake it, end of story. three: best way to encourage is with the truth!
"And for the record, some of us have been using wisdom in our waiting and dating. The prophets have said "right person, right time, right place."(eyeshigh:2007)"
That is a fallacy, waiting for 3, 5, 7, 10 or more years is not wisdom at all, on the contrary it is quite the opposite, you may want to find what word fits well for that, as i wont write it down for you this time.
"right person, right time and right place", has got nothing to do with time at all, not to say 10 years. It is as simple and consice and it is about doing it right, yes dear just doing it right, with the right person and in the right palce but please dear, do it!
if you are looking for a pair o shoes and you happen to walk to a place where you gazed at the ones you're looking for,and when you try them they fit, feel, and look perfectly and moreover the price is just right, this is my question to you eyeshigh, would you put them away and go through the whole shoe strore to try to find a better pair?
this is the answer: indeed you would! and that's what you have been doing all this time, let me tell you something important, choice is good with moderation and wisdom; but the way you may have used it, it creates conflict and that conflicts leads to chosing none at all!
"So while I find it very unfortunate that you yourself are seemingly miserable in your current state, others are exercising as much wisdom and faith as they have(eyeshigh:2007)"
If being miserable is finding yourself with out the other wheel required to make it back home, yes my friend, you are right, i am very miserable. i just don't know how you guys would call the phenomenom of making a career out of rejecting and being rejected based on your own insecurities and finding yourselves after many many years, going home alone to sleep with your worn-out pillow as your eternal companion; In my experience, this is definatley not the excercise of wisdom!
may the lord blesses you my dear friend eyeshigh, it is indeed my most sincere whish for you and your kind