Pilot Study – ON MEN!

[JoiceJoker]

1. What's your favorite past time? Sports?

2. Which TV shows do you like? Sci-Fi, epics or adventure? Or another genre, perhaps?

3. How do you think about lipstick? Do high heels intimidate you?

4. Where would you take your date? And what would you like to see her wear?

5. In which activities would you most likely participate with your wife/girlfriend/date?

6. I'm not asking what for, just pick the one you like.
a. Taco Bell
b. Sushi Bar
c. the bar of a classy Restaurant
d...........(your own idea, perhaps?)

7. How do you describe your overall attitude? (I know – it’s a difficult one. Take your time! )

8. Does she have to look good in your sweater?

9. Which qualities do you seek in a woman/girl?

10. Do you support fight or flight responses? (to provoke extensive adrenalin output)
Or are you rather settled?

11. If she becomes obnoxious what do you say?
- - a. Nail yourself another assignment.
- - b. It’s not you – it’s me.
- - c. How about lunch/Dinner?
- - d. .........(what? you have a different set of words? Then - let's hear it!)

12. What if she’d insist to pay for the flight, dinner, whatever?

13. What annoys you most about a woman/girl ?

15. Would it bother you if her income succeeds your own?

14. Do you want to have children?
- - a. Definitely.
- - b. No, but she can bring her’s.
- - c. Huh?
- - d. .........(fill in the blanks)

15. Are you the imaginary type or rather realistic?

16. What distracts you most? How do you stay focused?

[dadood]

Joice, do any of these questions or answers really matter? If there's chemistry, physical, emotional, and intellectual attraction... everything else is just noise.

[JoiceJoker]

dadood,
if I understood you correctly you are saying, that you're incapable to answer the questions.
Hmmmm...........sad enough that you keep trying to lure me into falling for your blueness. (I might, though. And that's confusing!)*grin*

[dadood]

That is not what I'm saying at all

What I'm saying is that it's more fun to get to know someone slowly and teasingly and suspensefully (and other cool adjectives), than it is to read a questionnaire that covers their whole lifetime. Then the info just gets treated like spam (not the kind you eat).

Besides, where would the mystery be if a man reveals all his secrets? Most people are only interesting till you get to know them. Most adventures are no longer fun when the destination has been reached.

[JoiceJoker]

I look at people differently. They stay interesting because people change. Besides it's lame if you find out how someone ticks and suddenly you're not interested in the person any longer. It's not all about the unknown, but knowing can be more powerful than every unknown mystery.

Take you for example: I know you in and out. *sly grin*
And I can tease and twitch your mind. If that's not intriguing than what is??

[dadood]

It's not working yet. You're going to need to do a lot more teasing and flirting before you'll even have the slightest effect on me. I'm an unsolved mystery... an untameable stallion... unbreakable steel... etc.

But I think people are like books. Some have nice and pretty covers but lack interesting contents. And no matter how many times you read an uninteresting book or how well you get to know it, it's still uninteresting. But some books are just interesting and beautiful, it gets better and better with every page. And when you get to the end, you can't help but say, "WOW! I love that book! I can spend a life time reading it and admire the beauty of it."

[dadood]

That was not a shoot down but an invitation and instigation for more flirting

Didn't think you would surrender to easily

[JoiceJoker]

Did you miss me?

As I've stated somewhere else before, I don't ever surrender.
You should know that by now. If you want to win anything, you'll have to make it an effort.
If you can't handle it, you are free to walk away anytime, because........I'm not interested in taking prisoners. I hope you're aware of the consequences this statement includes.....

And if I'm a book, then you must be an illiterate in some way?
It's not hard to explain, how you got attracted to the cover.
But you still didn't read the index. I'd be glad to offer you my help. *smile, shrug*

You might want to consider to roll over and play dead, though. (It's less exhausting)

[tnebergall]

While I'm not sure why dadood had such a problem with these questions (other than perhaps his blueness...) here are my responses...

1. What's your favorite past time? Sports?
My favorite past time is reading and bicycling. Sports? Not so much anymore...

2. Which TV shows do you like? Sci-Fi, epics or adventure? Or another genre, perhaps?
I prefer educational programming most, leaning toward science. I really don't watch much fiction anymore.

3. How do you think about lipstick? Do high heels intimidate you?
Lipstick is fine with me. I've never been intimidated by high heels...

4. Where would you take your date? And what would you like to see her wear?
I can't answer this questions generically, it would entirely depend on the person, how many times we had gone out, her preferences, etc.

5. In which activities would you most likely participate with your wife/girlfriend/date?
Another tough generic question. I would participate in anything she asked me to that would be appropriate for me to participate in that would not result in a catastrophic scheduling conflict.

6. I'm not asking what for, just pick the one you like.
a. Taco Bell
b. Sushi Bar
c. the bar of a classy Restaurant
d...........(your own idea, perhaps?)
b or d (picnic at the beach)

7. How do you describe your overall attitude? (I know – it’s a difficult one. Take your time! )
Positive, hopeful, forward thinking

8. Does she have to look good in your sweater?
She always does...

9. Which qualities do you seek in a woman/girl?
My list here is relatively short.
1) Member in good standing with a temple recommend
2) Healthy
3) Good sense of humor

10. Do you support fight or flight responses? (to provoke extensive adrenalin output)
Or are you rather settled?
An interesting question that I cannot come up with an adequate answer for... I'm not that settled, but neither would I want to provoke a "fight or flight" response...

11. If she becomes obnoxious what do you say?
- - a. Nail yourself another assignment.
- - b. It’s not you – it’s me.
- - c. How about lunch/Dinner?
- - d. .........(what? you have a different set of words? Then - let's hear it!)
d. Tell me what's really on your mind... is there something I can help you with?

12. What if she’d insist to pay for the flight, dinner, whatever?
Why would that be a problem? If she wants to pay, I'm good with it...

13. What annoys you most about a woman/girl ?
It's not really gender specific, but a negative outlook is the most annoying thing to me in anyone.

15. Would it bother you if her income succeeds your own?
Not at all.

14. Do you want to have children?
- - a. Definitely.
- - b. No, but she can bring her’s.
- - c. Huh?
- - d. .........(fill in the blanks)
d. I already have children. I'm not looking to have any more of my own, but if she has children that would be great.

15. Are you the imaginary type or rather realistic?
I'm realistically imaginative.

16. What distracts you most? How do you stay focused?
Hard to say what's most distracting for me at this point in my life. Staying focused is just a habit...

[JoiceJoker]

tnebergall,

I can only speak for myself, but if you would answer question no. 11 the way you did towards me, I'd force the laundry basket on you. *grin*

If staying focused is just another habit it might not be so tough for me to adapt after all.

[tnebergall]

If I only got the laundry basket on 1 question I did good!! LOL

[JoiceJoker]

Actually it's not so bad.
Since I like to fumble with expressions my favorite answer is 15.

[tnebergall]

From all the posts I've seen on you, "not so bad" is quite the compliment! Thanks!

[dadood]

Joice, maybe I missed you just a tad bit. But not as much as you've missed me

So you don't take prisoners? What does that mean exactly? You don't want to be vague with me because I'll always think you meant something kinky

And if you were a book... I'd read you

[JoiceJoker]

tnebergall,
you're welcome.

[JoiceJoker]

dadood,
if you let your hormones remote control you with every comment I place, what am I supposed to do about it?

So far, I haven't seen any of your reading yet.

You're combination skills are lousy, btw.(no, I didn't miss you, just the blue image...)

[dadood]

My combination skill? I know I'm pretty skillful in all things, but I didn't know that I'm good at combining too

And I don't read out loud. But be assured that I have you read, mapped, and solved

[JoiceJoker]

Hmm.......
I'm not so sure about that!

[dadood]

Don't take offense, I was only kidding. We all like to think that we're unique and not easily explained. Although I think that a lot of human behavior has been mapped and can be forecasted like the weather, there's still the human element that is unique and unpredictable.

I bet it'll take a lifetime to get to know just a fraction of you

[JoiceJoker]

Well, few people are faster than that.

[Cyrano]

1. What's your favorite past time? Sports?
Hah! No. My favorite past time is probably reading. Maybe gaming, as well.

2. Which TV shows do you like? Sci-Fi, epics or adventure? Or another genre, perhaps?
I have a range of favorites. Firefly, Psych, Glee, Bones, Chuck, really anything fantastic.

3. How do you think about lipstick? Do high heels intimidate you?
I love both of these things on a woman. The taller the better. I'm a good six foot or six one, so it's hard for most women to get taller than me, but it wouldn't bother me if they were.

4. Where would you take your date? And what would you like to see her wear?
Depends on the date, but I love getting dressed up, and I really like it when a woman wears a nice dress. I've literally been to a ball before, and it was wonderful.

5. In which activities would you most likely participate with your wife/girlfriend/date?
Anything we're interested in, I suppose. I like trying new things, as well. Can we just hang out at a bookstore sometimes? That's fantastic. Bowling, pool, fancy parties, movies. Whatever. I'm easy to please. Just don't take me to a sporting event. I'll bring a book and you'll be disappointed.

6. I'm not asking what for, just pick the one you like.
a. Taco Bell
b. Sushi Bar
c. the bar of a classy Restaurant
d...........(your own idea, perhaps?)
I'd go with classy restaurant.

7. How do you describe your overall attitude? (I know – it’s a difficult one. Take your time! )
Snarky.

8. Does she have to look good in your sweater?
If she wants. isn't the point of my sweater to look good on me?

9. Which qualities do you seek in a woman/girl?
Witty, fun, attractive. I've already gone over this in another post today.

10. Do you support fight or flight responses? (to provoke extensive adrenalin output)
Or are you rather settled?
I was recently held up at gunpoint and threatened with murder, but I never freaked out, and I didn't run. Therefore I'd have to go with settled, I guess. That or fight.

11. If she becomes obnoxious what do you say?
- - a. Nail yourself another assignment.
- - b. It’s not you – it’s me.
- - c. How about lunch/Dinner?
- - d. .........(what? you have a different set of words? Then - let's hear it!)
Depends on the situation. Are you asking what I would say if I broke up with her? Because obnoxious really isn't a big deal, so I wouldn't say anything. If she was obnoxious all the time, I wouldn't be dating her.

12. What if she’d insist to pay for the flight, dinner, whatever?
I think there's give and take in every relationship, both financially and emotionally. After all, the eventual point is to share everything in life.

13. What annoys you most about a woman/girl ?
Nothing really. It depends on the individual girl.

15. Would it bother you if her income succeeds your own?
Not in the slightest.

14. Do you want to have children?
- - a. Definitely.
- - b. No, but she can bring her’s.
- - c. Huh?
- - d. .........(fill in the blanks)
Yes, but it's not a deal breaker.

15. Are you the imaginary type or rather realistic?
Definitely imaginary. I create my own little worlds and then live in them.

16. What distracts you most? How do you stay focused?
Everything, I guess. I'm not that great at laser-like precision focus.

[JoiceJoker]

Right. Otherwise you wouldn't be here wasting your time on a survey. :-)
Welcome to distraction....

[naulite]

I'll chew on this one for the fun of it.

1. What's your favorite past time? Sports?
Hmm.. cuddling. Cuddling should be a sport. What could be better than spending time with someone you truly love all wrapped up in your arms? And if she wants to watch sports, here's the remote, it's ok by me. It's likely I'm not going to be paying attention to the TV anyway.

2. Which TV shows do you like? Sci-Fi, epics or adventure? Or another genre, perhaps? Star Trek (TOS & TNG), Firefly/Serenity. I watch a few other shows, but nothing that I'd list because it's a passing thought to watch them. I'm not a big TV watcher. There's so many other things to do that are more interesting. Reading books, communicating with friends, and attending church.

3. How do you think about lipstick? Do high heels intimidate you?
Lipstick, if you must. I prefer the natural look, no makeup at all. I want to see your natural complexion, the real color of your lips, the natural creases in your skin. This is what makes you who you are. Why hide it from me? As for high heels... why anyone is silly enough to wear those torturous devices is beyond me. They are bad for your feet. And don't you dare complain to me that your feet hurt when you wear them out. I will look at you and say, "I told you so." quicker than you can retract your complaint. You've been warned. And I don't want to hear any lines about how you think high heals make your legs look great. Your legs look great no matter what shoes you are wearing, or not wearing for that matter.

4. Where would you take your date? And what would you like to see her wear?
There are too many variables to post stipulate an adequate all inclusive response. The "attire" is dependent on the "where" which is dependent on the "date" in question.

5. In which activities would you most likely participate with your wife/girlfriend/date? Uhm, seriously? Home making, child rearing, sex (because seriously, to be completely honest, celibacy sucks.) , church activities, and whatever else she happens to want my help with. This is an incredibly vague question. May I suggest clarifying the parameters of your query.

6. I'm not asking what for, just pick the one you like.
a. Taco Bell
b. Sushi Bar
c. the bar of a classy Restaurant
d...........(your own idea, perhaps?)

B. Sushi Bar - Great Sushi is an incredible treat for me. It usually involves driving hours just reach the closest Sushi Bar. Something I relish and thoroughly enjoy when I go. I usually only take my absolute closest friend with me. Its a special reward and I treat it as such.

7. How do you describe your overall attitude? (I know – it’s a difficult one. Take your time! )

When someone asks me whether the glass of water is half empty or half full, I simply drink the water. Problem Solved.

"I am an OPTIMISTIC PESSIMIST. I'm POSITIVE it's going to FAIL." I want a t-shirt that says this.

"I don't need an attitude adjustment. Everyone else needs a perspective adjustment." I also want a t-shirt that says this.

8. Does she have to look good in your sweater?
If she's wearing a sweater, it's not mine. I don't own any sweaters. And if she wants to know if she looks good in some other guys sweater, the answer will always be "No" even if she does look good in the sweater.

9. Which qualities do you seek in a woman/girl?
This is a list waiting to happen. I'm going to refer this over to your other forum post "What men want..." http://singlesaints.com/forum/forum.php?paramurl_js=http://singlesaints.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f%3D6%26t%3D221%23p1562 I wrote a big long thing answering this question, I don't see the need to regurgitate it here.

10. Do you support fight or flight responses? (to provoke extensive adrenalin output) Or are you rather settled?

I'm usually rather settled. I still get excited about things and the adrenalin will pour forth at those times, but I am by no means an adrenalin junky. In other people I try to help them calm down. Being hopped up on adrenalin retards your rational thought and thus is a hindrance in most normal situations.

11. If she becomes obnoxious what do you say?
- - a. Nail yourself another assignment.
- - b. It’s not you – it’s me.
- - c. How about lunch/Dinner?
- - d. .........(what? you have a different set of words? Then - let's hear it!)

This would be dependent upon what she was being obnoxious about. Initially I would stay silent, listen, wait, and analyze her behavior to then determine the best possible course of action to calmly affect a solution to the disturbance.

12. What if she’d insist to pay for the flight, dinner, whatever?

It's cool with me. Just leaves more money in my pocket to spoil her with later, should that be the end result. If not, then it's less money I wasted.

13. What annoys you most about a woman/girl ?
Make up, High heels, and the word "Like".

15. Would it bother you if her income succeeds your own?

No, not in the least.

14. Do you want to have children?
- - a. Definitely.
- - b. No, but she can bring her’s.
- - c. Huh?
- - d. .........(fill in the blanks)

D. I've multiplied already. 1 times 1 equals 1. I've made my replacement for society. It's up to the ex to make her own.

15. Are you the imaginary type or rather realistic?

Hmm... I "imagine" that by signing up on this website I will have the opportunity to possibly meet and therefore bring to reality the idea that I have for an eternal companionship, but "realistically" when the closest sister members on this site are over 100 miles away (one direction) the reality is that I'll be lucky to find someone who is willing to communicate effectively enough to enjoy my humor.

16. What distracts you most? How do you stay focused?

Boobies.... I'm sorry, what were you saying? Let's be completely honest about this one. If the ladies didn't want us guys to notice them, then y'all wouldn't be wearing clothes that show them off. Period, plain and simple. So, if I walk up to you, look down your cleavage, and comment to you saying, "Hey, those are nice. Thanks for sharing them" and this offends you, you might want to rethink what you are wearing. If you are going to show them off, I'll let you know that I'm appreciative. After all, my momma taught me that when someone shares something with you, you should thank them.

[JoiceJoker]

1.So the cuddling is disguised as “another sport”? :-)

2.Do you think make up consists of plaster? You still see all of the wrinkles and every other detail – except the dark circles under her eyes when she conceals or the mascara and eye shadow needed not to look so darn tired all the times from chatting through the nights (perhaps with you?)
High heels are a must. Not negotiable!! *dead serious*

8. You know, a “No” as to if she looks good in another guys sweater….why would any girl (because women don't ask those stupid questions) be asking you that? *innocent*

10. hrmpf *indignantly*…..you don't seem to know too much about the excitement of severe adrenaline output! Besides it makes you stay alert and thus much more responsive...

11. Calmly? False response!

12. What do you have against like? I like cinnamon…..or vanilla. No that's a lie. I LOVE cinnamon AND vanilla.

16. I don't remember. Did you hear/read something? *pokerface*

[naulite]

1 - Absolutely cuddling is another sport. If done right, you can get just as much exercise as going to the gym. I think it's possibly the most fun any two people can have with their clothes on.

2 - I think you mean 3, but I'll go with it. Yeah.. I can see your point, but no. If you have dark circles under your eyes from staying up all night talking to me then it's time that I shut up, hold you close, and let you get some sleep. Talking all night has it's benefits, but it'll make anyone a grumpy bear on the morrow.

8 - Uhm, yeah. I'm just going to leave that alone. Opinion questions get me in trouble. Does this look good? Does this make my butt look big? etc... I never answer those the way the girl is expecting. If you don't want my honest opinion, don't ask.

10 - You are correct in that you are more alert and responsive being on an adrenaline rush, but that's all you get out of it. The hypothalamus takes over and the frontal lobe shuts down. All you are doing is reacting to the stimuli as the higher cognitive thinking has been shut down.

11 - Yes, calmly. This you would know to be true if you knew me. This took several hard lessons over a period of time, but I learned from the mistake to not stay calm in these types of situations. I prefer to maintain my higher cognitive thought by not allowing myself to become emotionally reactive to situations. (see adrenaline comments from #10) Solutions don't come by emotional reactions, they come by careful thought and applied logic. I've learned this over the years. Allowing yourself to be caught up into an emotional turbulent situation of another person will only serve to take away any possible choices you have to offer effective assistance.

12 - "like" is a generic term that gets tossed around without clear definition of its true meaning. For example; 'I like you." What does that really mean? The connotations are immense. It could mean anything from; "I think you are attractive" to "I find your presence pleasurable" to "I feel an emotional connection to you and would like to pursue this possibility further" - Simply say what you mean and mean what you say. I still use "like" but I'm tying to correct my speech so as to be more precise and clearly understood.

16 - You're welcome. I'm in the middle of "1984" by George Orwell. Just finished "Our Search For Happiness" by M. Russell Ballard and I plan on reading "Jesus The Christ" by James E. Talmage next.

[JoiceJoker]

11. Under the "influence" of an adrenaline rush those body parts unnecessary for survival are being shut down. Which means, depending upon the situation you are in, adrenaline shuts down certain functions to enhance others (i.e. control of blood supply).

So, if you are in a rage due to a conversation or stand in front of a hungry bear makes a huge difference on how adrenaline affects your functions and thus your response unless the "memory" of a certain situation is triggered and thus causes the same response as it did in that specific situation IRL.

But even those responses can be "reprogrammed". It takes time and persistence, but it can be done.

I have to be in control due to my responsibilities day in, day out.
Therefore to me nothing can be more exhilarating than to allow myself to fall at times and to just give up control. Hence the addiction.

[naulite]

11 - At what point did we step away from me explaining my reasoning behind a calm and measured approach to dealing with an obnoxious person, to you defending your addiction?

If you choose to be an adrenaline junky, that's your choice and you are free to choose it. If this is your primary means by which to effect a release from stresses of everyday life, this I would find to be disheartening, and I would recommend you seek counsel relating to said addiction.

[JoiceJoker]

Rambling and pointing out that an adrenaline rush can be fun and can be controlled is not stepping away from you explaining to stay calm - no conflict and no side sweeping.

I simply choose not to at times.

There's a difference to real adrenaline junkies who indeed need counsel because adrenaline holds sway over their every action in daily life.
But this is another topic all by itself. We can discuss adrenaline addiction in detail, the stages and the consequences if you wish to do so. :-)
I'm not sure if this belongs here though.

Summary:
You like to stay calm, which is a good thing.
I don't like to stay calm sometimes which works for me.

[naulite]

Then it appears like we agree to disagree on our individual methods for dealing with obnoxious people.

As for the rest, I will agree that this is not the proper place to discuss such matters.

Thank you, this has been a stimulating and enjoyable conversation.

[JoiceJoker]

You're welcome. :-)