Why does the word divorce leave such a bad taste in everyones mouth

[jherre]

As a member of the LDS community I have noticed that the very word divorse seems to make people look at you like they have a bad taste in their mouth. After that then they give you the pitty look like your grandma just dies.

I can remember a time when I was that person. At the time I didn't even think of it as judgemental. Divorce was for other people..... you know because us mormons have made a commitment on a deeper level and can handle anything thrown at us.

So to anyone that I have given that disaproving look to..... I am sorry. I can honestly say that it will never happen again.

Why is it that we judge mormons who are divorced more harshly? 

[JoiceJoker]

Maybe it has something to do with church´s history. Around 1978-1980 people were excluded when they got divorced.

But then again it could be simply because we failed to uphold a cheery countenance to a miserable relationship?

Divorcees might be too much to take care of?

Perhaps we ruin those perfect statistics?

[Dusty]

I've dated a divorcee before. It didn't work out, but it had nothing to do with the fact that she was a divorcee. As divorce statistics rise, even in the Church, I believe that people will become less judgemental about it. I mean, just about everyone knows someone who's been divorced for whatever reason, and I'm sure there will be much less of a stigma attached to it. Much like dating online. I used to be embarrassed about the whole online dating scene, but it has become much more commonplace and thus, less embarrassing.

[Ruthlessfairy]

As many there are to judge so are there many who will suffer...but heres s0me c0mfort THE LEAST YOU HAVE D0NE UNTO MY PEOPLE IS THE LEAST YOU HAVE D0NE UNTO ME...forget the looks and the remarks keep serving Christ.

[jm0405]

I am divorced and never cared what people think because I chose divorce over living with a gay man. If anybody judged me, great - then those loving souls can marry him!

Aside from that, I was born and raised in Vegas and many of my LDS friends have been divorced and remarried. Nobody looked down their nose at them. But then again, I believe the culture and environment has something to do with it. Vegas is Divorce Capital of the world so it's commonplace here. If we all lived in Smalltown USA somewhere else, we all might be married to our ex's due to what that area dictates, who knows?

[naulite]

Divorce... that's the best thing that ever happened to my marriage. I think it's a wonderful blessed thing.

Now... the word "Marriage" that should make everyone cringe and cower in fear.

Remember - Marriage is a wonderful institution... If you like being institutionalized.

[Dusty]

Don't hate, repopulate!

[seaicilin]

Sometimes I think it is because married people do not know how to act to someone getting a divorce. Yes, we Mormons made a deeper committment, but we are no different than people who are not Mormons. Sometimes one of the couple does not honor the committment, and divorce happens. Sometimes it is us divorcees who feel we are looked at differently because we feel awkward around all the married people in our wards.