Would I have married him knowing he is gay? Not on your life. It's a dead-end. I wouldn't want to be stuck with someone with AIDS, risk my life and have to take care of them.
I don't think all bishops are evil - just the one in the family I married into. I am sure there are others, but I believe good outweighs bad by far. People say that you need 2 people in the office when you meet with the bishop. This predator went to their house every day when their parents were at work! The injury occurred outside the church. He used the title to gain trust. It was this same bishop that told me I wasn't worthy of being family or being anything because I am LDS-enough and when I used the term "Mormon" he called me uneducated. HMM...Funny isn't it? Throw barbs my way while he's committing felonies??? Nice guy!
Granted, I have not been active - nor have I stepped foot into any ward since 2001. I am living in Vegas, back home, have joined up with LDS people I grew up with here in Vegas....Ok..Now we're talkin'!! I am getting into the swing of things now FOR ME. When I married James, before I knew he was gay, I wanted to do the temple thing, have a relationship based on something good. His comment was, "If we lie, we'll go to the temple." NOPE! I withdrew that request. If you have to lie about anything, it's not worth having. Then later, finding out his whole life was based on lies, glad I left, but I knew one day I would have to walk this current path alone. There is nobody else. Just me. In some ways it's a lonely path, but in others, it's awesome too. Moving forward and not allowing yesterday to hold me back is quite freeing.